**Guest Blogger Alert**
My friend Ryan gives a great message in today's update. Enjoy!!
It is an honor to be Jon's first 'guest blogger.' I thank you all for taking the time to support Jon in his efforts and check in on his 'weekly' (sorry Jon) blog postings. As Jon mentioned, my name is Ryan. To give you a brief history, Jon and I were roommates at UW-Stevens Point over a decade ago. Last year Jon's blog posting and goal setting had a big impact on me. Per Jon's request, I asked how one of his goals was going and if there were a way that I could help. The next thing I knew, Jon was pushing back on me to accomplish several of my goals. As the calendar changed from 2012 to 2013, we both wanted to keep the positive momentum from the last year going and the '13 goals for 2013' was born. With that, I too have been sending updates via e-mail to my friends and family. What you are about to read was an update from early February. Enjoy!
Some friends and I were having an interesting discussion the other day in regards to 'Manhood and Manliness.' They are big words, I know, but our discussion centered on some of the major events that have shaped what modern manhood looks like. One of the fellas brought up the Industrial Revolution, and how it took fathers from their own homes and farms and sent them to work in the factories, mines, etc. The effect on manhood being that children no longer saw their fathers 'at their best,' as they had before while working beside them on the family farm. Many fathers came home exhausted after a days work and did not have the energy to spend on their marriages and raising their children, and that was the example they were setting for their kids, who carried it onto the next generation. So I started thinking...who gets to see my best?
I am not married, nor do I have children. Does that mean that my employer and co-workers should be the one that see my best? Or maybe it should be my family, or my friends, after all they are the most important people in my life. For me, the answers are God and everyone. That is where the largest motivation behind the 13 For '13 comes from. These goals were set to become more of the man that God designed me to be. For the first 29 years, I have seen flashes of that person, but it hasn't been consistent. It is time that my energy is spent working to nurture the gifts and refine the skills that He has given me. My energy does not need to be spent raising children or working toward a happy marriage, so it had better be spent helping to grow friendships, put in an honest day's work, and in doing so glorify Him. The 13 For '13 really should be called 100+ For A Lifetime, but if there is one thing we know about goals is that they need a timeline. That timeline starts at the beginning of everyday. I am always trying to show my best, and be that person that I am designed to be. So if you don't think that's what you're seeing, by all means TELL ME!
My thoughts to you are to ask yourself, "Who do I want to see my best?" Is it your kids? Your spouse? Your friends? Then take a serious moment to consider, "Are they the ones seeing it?" If they are, great! Take an inventory of how you are able to make that happen and put some fail safes in to ensure that remains the case. If not, you know what to do.
What does my best look like? I'm not sure. The only thing I do know is that it is not perfect, but here's to hoping you see it the next time we're together.
Thanks for reading!